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Thursday, April 05, 2007

The "Let's take a break" BS and what I deserve

I know I haven't posted in forever, but i feel it's time to revive this blog....Way to much going on not to!

This is the dumbest concept ever....The relationship "break". Either break up with me, or don't. It's up to you...but DON'T pull the "I don't know what I want, so I think I need a period of time where I make you wait to see if I miss you", this makes even less since if you keep talking to me during this "break". I hate the break....I DISPISE the break. to me, a break is prolonging the agony of a break up. This is my attitude given my current situation. OK, so I was dating this guy for 6 weeks to the day. It was one of those met one night, waited two weeks to get together then spent every moment since together things. For those who know me well, have read this blog before it was edited, or read all three blogs, you know this is a very odd occurance for me. I am the "ok, whatever...I pretend to care but I really don't" queen. Problem here is... I cared, like genuinely cared. He wasnt married, He never cheated, He didn't even go psycho on me.....but I did on him. I think It's just impossible for me to be happy ..period... I have to screw it up...but anyways...back to the point. After my stressed induced fits, he decides we need a break so he can think without me there. I told him I would rather break up and if we get back together eventually, then fine. but no.....he wants the dreaded break, so I reluctantly agree (yet again...so not me). I am day three into this break thing and I have done more thinking than he probably has. It's kinda hard since He still calls me and yes I did call him for 5 seconds yesterday, but just to apologize for sounding bitchy when he called me and to tell him I do want to be friends afterwards, We had alot of fun hanging out with his friends and alone even. with all this "thinking time" I have decided to go back to my old ways, like pre-sexy sgt. McDreamy old me. I am career driven, goal oriented, and if you can't go with it...tough...I just really don't care. When you prove you care about me, I might open up and start to care about you. I know what I want in a man. I know what I need and what kind of man it would take to survive long term. I need attention, I need to know I am the most important woman in the room to you, I need to know that you will stand by me through the all-nighters, the finals weeks and the 100+ hour school and work weeks. These are not only the things I need from a man, but I think they are things I deserve, and things I would willingly give in return if given to me. Short term is fun, and I probably should stick with it, but it doesn't always stay short term and that's when bad things happen. no one get's what they want or expect, then you waste time, money, and oppertunities trying to figure out what you want with "breaks". If this one ends up coming back to me, then good. He knows what he is dealing with and is willing to be that man, which honestly I think he easily could be. I have took responsibility for my actions, made my expectations clear and have done my part, so now it's his turn to decide what he wants.